It's not fun to receive criticism even when you expect it - of course. But if you have the ability to accept criticism with the right attitude, there is a good chance of maintaining good relations with others while learning something about themselves (and others) at the same time.
Here are your tips:
- The best way to accept criticism is to not respond directly, but instead let it "marinate" a bit. So when someone criticizes you eye to eye, tell them you will think about what he said and get back to him later with your own thoughts.
- Think about the purpose of criticism. If the person who criticized you have used nasty words and hard language, you should consider what the criticism is really about and try to determine what it is that has motivated the person to criticize you. There is a big difference in giving criticism and intended to help and that which is just for messing up with you.
- Look for the truth. Do you think the criticism is true? If it is - think about what you can do to fix the situation and make a plan for it. Your plan might contain something you need to do better next time.
- Take your plan and good humor to those who criticize you. By accepting criticism as an adult with a will to solve the problem, you will also make life easier for the person who has given the criticism. Most people are afraid to give feedback.